How to Have a “Successful” Divorce

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Going through a divorce is one of the most difficult events that you will face in your life. It is further complicated with custody issues and divisions of property. One element that is not taken into account is how exhausting the divorce process is mentally, physically, and emotionally.

It is OK to feel drained during a divorce and you do have the tools to successfully get through the process. Yes it is true that divorce does make you tired on every level, but it is important to take care of yourself during the process. What makes me an authority? I have been there myself. Let me start with a little background. When I was 28 years old, I got divorced from my husband of 7 years. We married very young and almost all of our adult decisions were intertwined with one another. Neither of us had gained any individual assets. Everything we owned and had was shared from bank accounts to our movie collection. Splitting up assets was like splitting my life down the middle.

Being young and not knowing any better, I was left penniless, with no furniture, and with an apartment I couldn’t afford on my own. I felt stuck. I felt like my ex-husband had used to me to support him through college and when he finally got to a point that he was gainfully employed, he left me behind for a younger woman. Looking back on that now, it seems completely ridiculous that I was the older woman at age 28 but I was young and naive. What I didn’t know back then could have filled a stadium. My mistakes are now my life lessons that I wouldn’t wish on anyone else.

Now that you have a little background on me, let me tell you what I wish I had done during my divorce instead. I wish I had taken better care of myself during the divorce. In a divorce it is important to realize that taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish. Keeping the furniture and things you need to survive is essential. Don’t let the emotional stress keep you from taking care of you. During a divorce, pick up a yoga class or go to a divorce support group.

Do all the things I wish I had done and you will be much happier than I was. If you feel depressed, go to your doctor and get medical support. See a counselor to help you through the process and realize that asking for help doesn’t make you weak. It takes strength to say, “I need support so that I don’t have to do this all by myself.”

It is not a game of win of lose, it is you protecting your life. You should come out stronger from your divorce than you went in and getting support will get you there more readily. You deserve to take care of you.

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