One of the first things to remember is that the LOA is very powerful. Ever heard the term “be careful what you wish for?”That phrase is for a very good reason. Have you ever wondered why you keep getting the same kind of challenges cropping up over and over again? Money problems, sickness, trouble with the kids, the marriage! Well the plain and simple truth is that you created it! I hear you shouting back at me, but trust me when I explain you will see. The best part about this magic is it’s no illusion. You are the creator of your own reality and that means you can do anything!
OK, how about a game? let’s play Simon Says; Simon says don’t think of a snowman, Simon says don’t think of a red bus and Simon says don’t think of a giraffe wearing a pink bow. Did you win? Trouble with the Universe is that she doesn’t understand the words don’t, not and no and for that reason, you will always get more of what you don’t want, especially if you keep using them! Now I’m going to show you how to get more of what you do want and less of what you don’t.
Step 1. Take a piece of paper and divide it into two columns A = Things I don’t want & column B = Things I would like. Then in the first column I want you to write down anything that’s wrong in your marriage or things you don’t want. Make your list as long as you can, around 50/100 issues would be great.
Step 2. Now that you have identified what you don’t want, now move into the next column and from there write down what it is you do want. The clue to getting what you want is to be as specific as you can. For example, if you put in column A~ My husband isn’t tactile enough, you could put in column B ~ I want my husband to be loving, caring and sensual with me. Remember to work down your list until you have totally eliminated your negatives (list A) Maybe you could score through them one at a time so that they no longer exist?
The second part of the law of attraction is to learn how to let go of the negative energy and replace it with positive energy. You need to do this to raise your vibration. As humans we are constantly sending out vibrational messages that others receive and interpret. Your mood is a good indication of what level your vibration is. If you are down in the dumps and miserable you will be sending out corresponding low vibrations. The Universe matches your vibrations and sends you more of the same. When you are happy and life is wonderful, your vibration is higher and you will receive more of that too.
You can increase your energy levels and vibration by simply playing some bouncy upbeat music, dance, sing or simply playing with the kids, the dog or how about going out and indulge yourself in mother nature. It’s important to understand, where focus goes energy flows and if you are miserable and things are not going well, it’s time to shift your focus!
Moving on to the third step of the law of attraction, you need to be the change you want to see. This means that you will need behave towards your partner as you would have them behave towards you. There is no point in chewing your partners head off when he gets home from work and expect him to be loving and caring. You can have anything you want in this life, you just have to have the desire to make it happen.
It’s easy when a marriage starts to show signs of cracks and it’s also easy to point the finger of blame. But by doing so you learn nothing and the same challenges will continue to present themselves until you look within. Here are some questions you might like to consider asking yourself when your relationship starts to suffer.
- If I were behaving like my partner, why would I be doing so?
- If I were behaving like my partner, how would it make me feel?
- How could I have created this situation?
- How could I have drawn this into my life?
- What feelings does this create within me?
I think that once you gain insight into why your partner is behaving in a particular manner you will stop pointing the finger and start working on yourself. These questions are a great place to start and used with the LOA you will be creating deliberately and you will have all that you truly desire.