Relationships are based on trust, honesty, openness, clarity, love, commitment and intimacy. If you have had relationships without one or more of those magical ingredients you probably remember that they were not very satisfying or successful. After reading the following article you will understand more about the reasons why developing intimacy is important, especially in an intimate relationship.
Intimate – Intimacy
The word intimate already explains some of those reasons. Intimate means ‘closely acquainted, familiar, close’. Intimate relationships involve very close connection.
Intimacy describes ‘close familiarity or friendship, closeness’ and often refers to the intimate act of sexual intercourse.
Given the meaning of those two words, we now start to get a glimpse of the importance of intimacy. It must be present and therefore developed in a relationship right from the beginning. Without it, we would have no real closeness or familiarity, which is one of the basic human needs, especially in relationship.
Developing intimacy is important because:
…it create a safe environment:
When we develop intimacy we create a safe environment that allows vulnerability, being able to be one self and be accepted as that.
…it allows openness:
Once we feel safe, we allow ourselves to be more and more open with our partner. Sharing each other’s most personal secrets bring us closer together.
…it goes hand in hand with building trust:
The more we trust someone the closer we let them come. Trust enables you to relax in the relationship which subsequently opens you up to even more intimacy
…it makes you come closer:
Even though it is possible to have sexual relationship with not much intimacy most of you have experienced the beauty of intimate closeness, where you melt into each other’s presence. Real intimacy allows you to be closer on a level that is beyond the physical.
…it contributes to the duration of the relationship:
In my therapeutic work with couples I have not yet seen a long-term relationship without any form of intimacy, closeness, familiarity. The soul of a relationship will die without intimacy.
Remember that being physically intimate and having frequent sex does not necessarily mean that you live in a relationship with deep intimacy. Intimacy develops over time and has less to do with sexual satisfaction than with deep meaningful human inter-relation.
If your current relationship is lacking intimacy you will notice this as ‘something is missing’. You might want to read the article called: 10 Ways to Develop Intimacy in Your Relationship.